Actually, there isn’t any art behind it. Just that you were born to be happy, and you can show this happiness with that beautiful smile of yours. C’mon! Let’s see it. Okay, good.
To some extent, we all know how to spot a genuine smile, basically this formula:
Genuine Smile = Crinkly Eyes
bbc-faces.jpg We are all sensitive to this genuine scale, so why then
is it that when we cross paths with a stranger or casual acquaintance in
the elevator, we give them a fake smile? That ‘polite smile’. You know
what I’m talking about (don’t get me wrong, I do this too, unconscious
at grocery stores, on streets, while waiting for something.).
The lesson? Smile with your eyes! Feel it genuinely and it will come out naturally.
A smile is so simple, yet so powerful. Some noticeable effects of externalizing your internal joy are:
* People will be attracted to you – I don’t mean sexually (well,
maybe that too), but people will feel drawn to your energy. When you
smile more, you will carry an aura and poise that will draw people to
you. People will look forward to being around you, knowing only that
they feel great around you. People on the street, at work, your friends
etc. We all like and want to be around happy and cheerful people, right?
* Optimistic – You’ll feel more positive about yourself and the world.
* Happiness & Joy – A smile is an expression of happiness and
joy in you. Like an upward spiral, a smile will boost the happiness you
feel.
* Healthy – A smile can affect your internal state, which can have physiological impact on your physical and mental health.
* Approachable – A smile is so welcoming and will make people feel more at ease.
* Making Other People Happy – A smile has the power to make other
people feel good about themselves. It’s heart-warming and has the power
to cheer up others instantly.
* Smiles Are Contagious – Others can quickly and easily catch it and will experience the above ‘side effects’.
Take The Smiling Challenge!
* Smile at Strangers -You know those times when we cross paths with a stranger or accidentally catch someone’s gaze, and we (both) would suddenly look away in awkwardness or pretend we are looking at something else? Well, the challenge is to give them a big smile. A genuine smile, showing teeth and everything. Deepak Chopra talks about giving each person you encounter a small gift. I do this with a smile. Why not? It doesn’t cost us anything. Plus, it’s a lot more fun than feeling awkward and pretending you’re not there.I also love to see people’s reactions when you smile at them, and they aren’t expecting it. Some blush, and others are surprised and smile back, which makes me feel all warm inside.
* Smile at Homeless People and Street Hagglers -
I live in a part of downtown Seattle with lots of street
hagglers and homeless people. People often ask me whether I get
‘harassed’ often. The answer is: sometimes. But they really are very
nice, just like the rest of us. They too need attention and
acknowledgment. So, give them a gift worth more than money.Next time
someone asks you for money, don’t try to ignore them. Turn to them,
smile warmly and tell them how you feel. If you don’t feel like giving
money, just tell them "Sorry, I don’t have change now. Have a beautiful
day!”Similarly, if something is trying to sell you something or
‘hitting-on’ you, simply turn to them, smile and say "No thank you.”I’ve
found that it takes more energy to ignore and pretend to be very
serious, than it is to smile. So smile! Make someone’s day!
* Smile Fully -You know that half smile we give people when we’re
trying to be polite? Like on an elevator, bumping in someone at the
front door, or waiting in line. Why not practice giving them a real
smile? It’ll be less awkward and you can potentially make someone’s day,
or a new friend!
* Smile at Work -Living under a routine, we can easily be in a
zombie-like state when coming into work. We zip into work quickly
following the same routines we’ve habituated. Our target is to get to
work, and we can sometimes forget about the people around us, in other
cubes/offices/departments. So, the challenge is to practice beaming with
smile as you come into work. Smile genuinely with people you meet. Be
completely pleased to see them. Make it a focus for the day, to bring
more happiness into the lives of others. Ask them genuinely and infused
with energy, "How are ya?” "How was your weekend?” Watch the smiles
surface on their face.
* A Small Compliment with Your Smile -When meeting or encountering
people. Look for things you admire or like about them, however small,
let them know. A small genuine compliment can go a long way to lift
people’s spirits.
I’ve found it useful to be conscious of things that make me smile. You might want to spend a few minutes making a list of things that brings a smile to your face.
Some Moments That Make Me Smile are:
* When Tommy (my eight pound Pomeranian doggie) does one of his
tricks: spin in circles, playing dead, or his ‘moonwalk’ dance (that’s
right, he moonwalks… *laughs*).
* When I practice gratitude ‘sessions’
* When I reach mini goals throughout the day.
* When I read comments left by readers.
* When savoring sweet taste of vanilla ice cream
* When I do my happy dance, and make friends laugh with my ridiculousness.
* When Adam (my partner) brings me food or chai in the morning as I’m working away on my laptop.
* When my mother laughs
More Tips To Bring Smiles into Your Life
* Smiling Journal – For two weeks, record the moments that
brought out your wonderful smile. If you are ever feel down, flip
through this book to be reminded of things that make you smile.
Experience those moments and notice your state shift to a positive one.
You cannot be both angry and smiling at the same time. I learned in
physiological psychology that if the physical action conflicts with that
of your feeling, the feeling inside will shift to match that of your
outer sensation. One way to shift your emotion is to change your
physiology.
* Appreciation – Identify things that you are grateful for. Then focus on those things as much as possible.
* Humor – Make a point to watch a comedy movie. To go a comedy club. Hang out with people who make you laugh.
* Go On a Self Date – When we feel more connected with ourselves, we feel more joy and tend to naturally smile more.
* Find Innocence – Observe a small child or a pet at play with total
ease and freedom. Watch their innocence, enjoy their presence and
yours. Are you smiling? Do you feel happy for them? That’s because you
are connecting with the same innocence within yourself.